Maxi Dresses: No Longer a foe

This spring, I finally gave into the maxi dress. Though I'm not a short person, I am by no means tall. As we know, from the rules of fashion: a solid color with no discernible shape can make you look short. Thanks dress, but I don't need any help with that.

Naturally, I have always leaned towards minis, because not only do short hemlines give the appearance of longer legs (thus making you seem taller), I also live in Florida. And it gets super hot here. But there comes a time in one's life when you need to start considering the appropriateness of your hem lengths. If you aren't at the height of your fitness or if you're over the age of 23, you might want to consider a mid length short or a dress that hits just above the knee.

But maxis are the focus here. How do you wear a maxi!? If you're over 5'7, don't even worry. Maxis are meant for you and look great.  For the rest of us who aren't build like super models, here are a few things to keep in mind:

- If you're petite, don't opt for an overly large pattern. They can overwhelm your body and make the dress look like it got hungry and ate you as a snack. 

- If you're busty, try not to go strapless - the ladies need support. 

- Alternatively, if you aren't as well endowed, feel free to look for ruffles or sweetheart necklines. 

- Consider your body type, what necklines work best on you? What about pencil, A-line, or full skirts? Same goes for your dresses, right? The rules still apply with a maxi. 

- Structure is key. Maxis are generally thought of as flowing summer dresses. So, look for ruching, darts, pleats, or my personal favorite anything you can belt.

If all else fails: buy a solid color, wear it with tall wedges and a few layered necklaces. Boho chic is here to stay.

Righty Runny, Lefty Lumpy

Some of you know what I'm getting into... And some of you don't. That's just fine because this a handy tip, just for you. 

When you're at restaurant and your table feels small and very crowded, and for some reason you can't figure out which water glass is yours or where your plate needs to sit, there is an easy solution. Thanks to one of my charming college roommates, I learned the easiest way to remember the solution to this predicament. Righty runny, lefty lumpy. Your drinks go on your right and your bread plate goes on your left. 

Easy as that. As long as everyone in your party remembers, there will be room for every plate on even the smallest tables!

High School Is Over.

A few weeks ago, while ignoring my DVR and trolling the interwebz (you know you do it too) I stumbled across a picture of a bunch of women, in what looked to be a glamor shot of sorts. The caption read "my friends are prettier than your friends".

Wow.

Okay, I will admit, your friends are all extremely pretty and the picture taken was lovely. I could only hope to take a picture near that nice (but alas, photogenic was not one of the traits I was awarded when they were being handed out.)

The caption is what got me. First, if you want to convey the message that your friends are beautiful, say that. There is no need to make someone feel bad to make yourself feel better. Second, however proud you are of your friends and how they may look, a little humility will win you a lot more points in the long run. Third, I'm fairly certain life isn't one big popularity contest, showing accolades in your yearbook. If that's what it's about, I suggest you take a wee moment for self reflection.

Your friends should be thought of as beautiful because of the people they are (Granted the more you know someone, the more good you see in them, the more beautiful they become to you). Kind, giving, caring, selfless... The kind of beauty that shines through even the darkest of days.

When you have appreciation for your life and can see the true beauty, you don't have to brag about how "pretty" your friends are, what a great car you have, how much money you make, etc. Your insecurity is showing, and it's not winning gaining you any points.

Good Etiquette

Etiquette is about making other people comfortable. It's not about you being prim and proper... But in a way it is, if being proper makes others comfortable, then, quite obviously that would be good etiquette.

Take a moment for reflection, what can you do to make someone's day a little easier? How can you make help have an easier day? ... That is true etiquette.

Lady Laws

Bro code, man cards... I get it. Be good to your fellow man, etc etc. I think it's high time we discuss the rules of being a girlfriend. They say men are competitive with sports... Women are competitive with EVERYTHING else. Who has the cutest shoes, who is dating the best guy, whose job is better, who gave to what charity. The list goes on and on. Some are material things and some are internal, all are judged.

Here's the thing, you can get so wrapped up in it, it can make your head spin or you can just refuse the game. I'm a proponent for doing what makes you happy. If you love your three year old shoes, wear them. If you want to give 5% of your salary to planned parenthood, I'm pleased to know you. Any way you look at it, girls need to stick together - especially you good girlfriends.

Here, by no means complete, are some of the most important Lady Laws.

In regards to style, you must:

- Notice different hair styles/colors.

- Compliment something if you legitimately like it.

- Tell someone if she has spinach in her teeth.

- Not copy everything a girlfriend wears, even if you love her style.

- Tell your girlfriend if an event/party you are going to has a specific dress code.

- Be honest when shopping together.

- Loan hair elastics and bobby pins if you have them to spare.

In regards to life decisions, you must:

- Not judge if called for a ride to or from somewhere.

- Keep your mouth shut if you don't like someone's significant other, unless asked.

- Open your mouth immediately if you think someone is making the wrong life long decision.

- Not "kill the messenger" if a girlfriend is honest with you.

- Be supportive in every way you can.

In regards to relationships, you must:

- Not disappear when you date a new person.

- Be accepting of the friend that disappeared when dating someone new.

- Make an effort to involve single and coupled friends.

- Understand that sometimes relationship/family activities have to take precedent. 

 

In regards to heartache, you must:

- Be supportive through heartache - involving, but not limited to, ice cream, wine, and lots of chocolate.

- Understand that sometimes a 2am phone call needs to happen.

- Tell your girlfriend when her self pity has started to effect her other relationships.

- Tell her when you ran into an Ex.

In regards to ex partners, you must:

- Tell her when you ran into an Ex.

- You must curse Ex's name if she needs to hear it.

- Under no circumstances, have relations of a sexual nature with an Ex, unless it was an insignificant relationship, a number of years (5 +), AND you have gained honest approval. And understand other girlfriends still reserve the right to place judgement. Basically, don't do it. 

It basically comes down to being a good person to one another... and going to the bathroom together in groups. Obviously.

Road Trip Crack Trail Mix

Quite name, huh? Well, I wasn't the one who named it (though it sounds like I should have!) Anyway... since I'm allergic to nuts, trail mixes are a tough one for me. But what's better than a trail mix when going on a trip (or trail?) A little salty, a little sweet. Yum! Well, I was at a wedding a few years back, my problem was solved!!! In the hotel gift bag was a nut free trail mix, called "crack". Seriously.

Here is what you need:
1 box of cap'n crunch
1 bag of gold fish
1 bag of m&ms
1 bag of pretzels
1 bag if bugles (I get the BIG bag)
2 bags of yogurt covered raisins

Take two gallon size zip lock bags and divide everything amongst the bags (Obviously a bag of raisins for each). Toss the bags around a little to mix... And you're done!!!

Here's my favorite part: substitutions!!! Don't like cap'n crunch? Use Cheerios or Chex. What flavor of gold fish are your favorites? Use them! Peanut m&ms? Go for it. Regular raisins and some other dried fruit? Yummy! I sometimes even add chocolate covered pretzels!

The possibilities are endless, and it's all so good! Just use what you like, or better yet, what you have around your house!

How To: Be a Good House Guest

After years of threatening and planning (not even joking, it's been since 2006), I finally made it up to the Windy City to visit my college roommates (who accidentally on purpose live 1 1/2 blocks from each other). We couldn't decide where I would stay, so we decided one night at one house, one night at the other - so I got a double dose of air mattress surfing & they got to deal with my incessantly chipper morning chatter. Everyone involved way terribly pleased - and by everyone, I mean my roommates and I. Their significant others... that remains to be seen.

Since summer is coming up, that means there will be a lot of vacations coming up - which means a lot of couch surfing with inevitably happen. Here, as always, are a few handy tips to make the whole experience easier for everyone.

- First thing's first: ask before you come to stay with someone. Even if it's totally cool with you to have every Joe on the street to stay with you, never assume. If you are bringing your significant other, it's imperative that you check with all parties involved. Alternatively, if someone asks to stay at your home, and it is truly inconvenient, say no!
- Discuss you trip expectations before hand. Are you expecting someone to play host for you or do you like to check things out on your own? Maybe you're there for work & they have tons of school.
- If you're a planner, make sure everyone is involved in the decision making for your daily activities. Don't do just what you want to do.
- When eating in, make sure your host is aware of any allergies. It's rather uncomfortable for all involved when they only snacks available are all nut-tastic and you become hive child, just looking at them (no, my allergies are not THAT bad, settle down).
- When picking dinner options, make sure you have a few choices with a broad menu and a variety of prices. You might want to eat at every Top Chef restaurant you can find in that city, and your friends might be in money saving mode.
- If you're having a night out, try to take everyone's temperature involved. You may way to be out until 5am, and they may not. You can always find a happy medium.
- Discuss plans for the following day, the night before. That way everyone has similar expectations to how the day will go - even if it doesn't totally go as planned.
- When waking up in the morning, unless you know your host sleeps in late, try to wake up at a reasonable time. Nothing is more uncomfortable for someone who is trying to play host to you and you keep awkwardly sleeping. Alternatively, if you are an early riser like me, try to be quite and start your morning. Take a shower, make coffee, and quietly entertain yourself. That way when your host wake up, they won't feel bad about having slept in.
- When it's the last day of your stay, clean up. Strip the sheets from the bed, deflate mattresses, refold couches, and pack your stuff up. No one likes a hurricane for a house guest.
- Consider an email, thank you note, flowers, or whatever is your style to show your gratitude. A written thought to show appreciation can really go a long way.

Not that we don't adore our friends and family, and cherish the time we get to spend with them, but as they say, house guests and Fish have a lot in common, after three days - they stink! Keep it short and sweet and you'll be sure to get an invite back.

Rainy Season

The weather here in Florida FINALLY broke and our summer rains have begun (did the storms wake anyone else up last night?) With that in mind and being a planner by nature, here are a few handy tips to make sure your day doesn't get screwed up my the rain. 

- Buy a rain coat. I'm someone who usually has my hands full, so when it rains, I don't always have time to carry an umbrella (Also, my manfriend is about a foot taller than me - which makes it hard to share an umbrella) So I bring my rain coat. I prefer a classic trench coat, it instantly adds a certain chicness to any outfit. Stay try to your style. If you have a tougher style, get a moto cut jacket. If you live in colder climates, it would be wise to get a convertible rain coat with a warm insert. Whatever you do, make sure it repels rain.

- Bring your umbrella!! I keep one in my car and one on the door handle going out to my garage. That way, I know I've always got one easily accessible to me... and see when right before i leave. So I never forget it. If you live in a place without a garage, consider a chic umbrella holder (with an umbrella in it) or placing your umbrella near where you keep your bag. 

- I carry a foldable bag with me, for instances that I need a bag at the farmer's market or if I'm on a trip and end up coming home with more than I came with. This bag, I have learned is also waterproof.  I was coming home last night with some important stuff in my purse and was going to have to make a made dash through the rain. Thankfully I had my foldable tote, threw my purse in it, and nothing got wet. 

- Rain boots!!! Hunters are classic (ah hem, Hunter Green... where did you think it came from?). But keep in mind there are tons of colors and styles, so get what fits your style and personality.  I have a pair of black riding boot cut (knee high with an angled top) that go with everything and get worn all the time. 

- Keep a little microfiber towel in the glove box of your car. It's so helpful when you were rained on and you need to get the rain off of you fast. 

With these tips, you can quickly get yourself out of a bind and stay dry. Prepare yourself now, and you won't have to worry about it later.

Homemade Kahlua

When I was visiting family a few weekends ago, my lovely aunt shared this with me... and it was so delicious, I figured I should share it with you!

Homemade Kahula

2 1/2 c  Boiled Water

4 c White Sugar

2 oz Instant Coffee

2 t Vanilla

1 Pint Vodka

1 Pint Brandy

Directions: Boil the water. Add all the ingredients. Let cool. Drink. A lot.

So easy, right? And SOOOO good.

Khaki vs. Berry

My platonic life partner posed this question to me a few days ago while shopping for an impending trip. Obviously, I knew Nattily Natalie would have to chime in. I love to help other people shop and am floored every time someone bothers to ask my opinion I try to give the most truthful opinion I can, focusing on all the good points (though I am not afraid to point out the not so flattering as justification for you to burn something. Pryo much? Yeah, apparently so.)

Though, the more I considered the arguments for berry vs. khaki, it became clear this was much larger than what color coat she should choose. It's time for a discussion about classic vs. trend.

9 times out of 10, I will opt for the classic. I have tons of LBDs, white oxfords, gray cardis, a trench, and more plain black heels that I can to admit. There are few things I dislike more that buying a new article of clothing, and not having any basics to go with it. And basics are classic. You will always look awesome running around on weekends in your favorite jeans, a white t-shirt, a trench, and loafers.

The problem with classics, they can be dated. Collars change. Hem lines change. Fit changes. You may have had the perfect suit 10 years ago, and you thought you'd wear it forever... I bet it's not the first thing you grab, is it? Realistically, what do you own from more than five years ago that still fits? And that you LIKE how it fits? For me, I weight about 10 lbs less and loved shirts that were slightly midriff bearing. So anything from then doesn't fit... And if it did, I wouldn't like the fit of the item.

If you don't participate in some trends (a nod to animal print here, a pair of colorful flats there) your wardrobe would be the kind of bland that mayonnaise rolls its' eyes at. But what happens if you overly participate in trends? 1) you'll look like a fashion victim 2) you'll look cheap and 3) you could fall into the dreaded trend time warp (I'm talking to you with the big ass hair and blue eye shadow - also to your daughter with the overly straightened hair and bedazzled t-shirt)

Trend can turn into classic. Otherwise how would we gain classics? But be wary of falling to either side. Too bland or too much, no thanks. A nod to the trend, a nod to the classic, all blended with your personal style. My advice to her (after mentioning that her pets would willingly destroy a majority of her clothes), go for the pop of color. Wear classics with it. And then, when the time comes to retire said coat, know you wore the hell out if it.

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Water

For anyone that knows me, they know I drink a lot of water. All the time. And there is a reason for it: I feel better when I do.

When I was little, I wasn't a fan of overly sugary or tart juices (which eliminates ALL of them), my mother wouldn't let me have caffeine (shocking, right?) and my parents found out I was slightly allergic to milk (based on all my other allergies, it's not very shocking), so I got to drink a lot of water.

Well, I very quickly came to love the pure, cooling taste of a glass of water. I don't care if it's room temperature, chilled in the fridge, or even a little warm from the sun. I feel amazing after I drink it.

Funny enough, I actually notice the benefits of my excessive water drinking when I don't drink enough. I get a headache, my skin feels tight, my lips feel chapped and I feel bloated. Those symptoms are all pretty high on the horrific scale for me, so, I drink water.

If you drink as much water as I do, I implore you to get reusable glass/cup/container. If you're being good to yourself, you should also be good to the environment.

White. Wear it Now.

Don't wait until memorial day. And don't worry about wearing it after labor day. If it feels right, go for it!

I have a pair of white jeans from my friend and yours, Michael Kors. It's a safe bet to assume I have been wearing them for a few weeks now! But also great white things to consider:
- A white dress (maybe with some turquoise or red coral jewelry)
- A white blazer over a bold sheath dress.
- A white oxford shirt... with everything!
- A white chunky knitted cardi over your bathing suit.


White is a color that should be in every wardrobe, regardless of the season. Make sure they aren't too sheer and wear nude supportive undergarments, and you'll be set for summer. And as a side note... white sets your skin off to give you a bit of a tan.

Don't Be That Guy... On a Plane

Thanks to the past long weekend, my travel bug was indulged - sort of. I, at least, got to fly around the country and spread my asinine musings and disdainful glances. (Though I promise, I'm super fun to travel with - you may have guessed, I'm a little judgy).

Here are a few things I've been reminded of while traveling this weekend that I now feel obliged to share with you.

Packing:
- Leave your big items (shoes, bags, accessories) at home. You'll inevitably buy something and then you won't. have room to pack at the end of the trip.
- I don't care if the weather calls for 9000 degrees or negative 45 degrees. Always pack at least one t-shirt, one light jacket of your choosing, and a pair of flip flops. You'll thank me later.
- If you're going with a group, plan ahead of time if someone is bring a blow dryer, straightener, or curling iron. No need to pack multiples.

At The Airport:
- Wear comfy clothes for the plane, if you can. I understand that sometimes we have to wear specific outfits one planes or something special for the second you get off the plane, but comfortable is always better.
- Please don't take comfort too far. I don't recommend wearing your pajamas or juicy sweatsuit (please. Tell me you don't own one) on a plane. You look silly.
- If you can, wear slip on shoes (and socks!?) for going through security.
- When riding an escalator or people mover, stand to the right, unless otherwise noted. There are people who have places to be - so stand to the side. Their lives will be easier if they don't have to dodge you. And you have the chance of not getting your toes run over.

On The Plane:
- Don't take up more than your space.
- If you smoke, try to grab some gym or wear an outfit that doesn't stink. It's a small enclosed space, please remember that.
- Bring some form of entertainment, it is not the responsibility of the person next to you to entertain you.
- If the person sitting next to you is reading to listening to headphones quit bugging them. Please. I beg you.
- If you get cold easily (like me!) try to bring a jacket or cardi with you on the plane.

When traveling, you'll find me in jeans (or denim cut non jeans) loafers or flats, a comfy top, and always my trusty scarf (you never know when you're going to need to cuddle with your blankie or cover your nose from a foul smell).

Good luck and bon voyage, my friends!!!

Current Obsession: Chalkboard Paint

Recently I've been redecorating my house and saw a Jonathan Adler mirror that I HAD to have. Unfortunately, it was going to set me back roughly $600.  Ouch! I would much rather buy a pair or two or three of shoes. As some of you know, I spend a bit of time trolling Etsy.com via the interwebz, and figured I could find a Jonathan Adler-esque mirror. Three million mirrors... not one scalloped mirror. But I did run into a lot of vintage mirrors and frames that had been turned into chalkboards. Unfortunately the size I wanted didn't exist. As a problem solver and an obsessive crafter, I decided to make one!!!

Obstacle #1: Find a mirror or frame. After keeping my eye out for a few months, I found a pretty good sized old mirror at a garage sale. Cheap, interesting, cool. Sold. 

Obstacle #2: Find chalkboard paint. (I'm sure some of you knew that this magical substance exists... but some of you may not.For those of you who didn't know, you can go to your local hardware or craft store and pick up a handy can of paint that will turn ANY surface into a chalk board.) I opted for the spray paint and it set me back a solid $5. 

Obstacle #3: Paint. 

So I did. And I love it. Now, my biggest issue... I want to paint everything with chalkboard paint!!!! Any ideas?

Agave Nectar of the Gods

Let it be known, I love agave nectar.

When my sister said to me three years ago "agave nectar is a common honey replacement in vegan households" I scoffed. A honey replacement. Please. Could never happen. 

Fast forward to about a year ago, I was house sitting for my parents. As always, I was looking for a snack. And as always, my mother's pantry is filled with nuts. (Some of you may or may not know, I'm allergic to nuts.) I did find one bag of healthy choice popcorn. Barf. But I needed something to munch. So, I grabbed four bowls and divided the popcorn amongst them. One bowl was kept plain, one with cocoa powder, one with Old Bay seasoning, and one with, whomp whomp, agave nectar. 

And at that moment, my life was changed. Yum! Within the next week, the honey at my house was gone and replaced by agave nectar. 

Agave nectar, if you haven't tried it, is light and sweet. It is less sticky than honey, doesn't give you that horrible throat scratch when you've had too much, and has a light fruity, vanilla taste at the very end. 

Try it with your tea or coffee, to sweeten cookies, or my favorite with goat cheese on crusty french bread. Yum! The best part, yes, it's vegan. No animals are harmed when it is made AND it comes from a plant, so you aren't destroying an animal's habitat and hard work, just to sweeten your biscuit. Yep, agave nectar is great on biscuits too! You've never tried it? You can thank me later.

I Don't Usually Smell Like Fish

This phrase was uttered to me the other day. With a completely straight face and completely earnest.

"I don't usually smell like fish."

But really, to make matters worse, is wasn't just a fish smell. There was a bit of salty body odor, as well.

Clearly, my new friend had been spending the day fishing and had yet to make it home to bathe. I realize sometimes you are in a rush to go places and people have busy lives, but honestly, if you know you smell that bad, take a shower before you go out in public.

You can smell yourself. You understand what body odor smells like... if you have been doing something strenuous, you've been working with something odoriferous, or it's been a little bit of time, shower. Please, I beg of you.

Bathe and you won't have to awkwardly say to someone "I don't usually smell like fish."

White Jeans... Let's Discuss

A summer staple for some, yet the bane of others' existence. 

Where do you stand on the issue?

Personally, I love a good pair of jeans in a modern cut (loved my white flairs in college). Currently I have a pair of white skinny jeans from your friend and yours, Michael Kors, which will be making an appearance all summer long. So, get excited. I'm a huge fan of pairing my white jeans with a draped top with a pop of color. Or with a black top and tons of turquoise jewelry. 

With white jeans, if they are poorly cut, they only accentuate your flaws. Also, as we know, lighter colors highlight, while dark tend to minimize things. From that, naturally you can conclude, unless your jeans fit well, they will not be attractive.Another thing to keep in mind, the thickness of the denim. White can be see through, so a thicker denim is obviously a wise choice. 

Don't settle for the first pair you find, chances are they won't fit perfectly and they will be too sheer.  But when you do find the perfect pair, and you are a white jeans fan, go for it.

What to Wear on a Date

There comes a time in everyone's life when they must date. We date, in hopes of one day, finding the right person. A partner, a companion, and who knows maybe even the parent of your child (if you so choose). No pressure, right? Actually, there isn't! A date is similar to an interview... but here's the thing, you are both interviewing each other. If you like each other, go out again. If you don't... don't. Simple as that. 

Since appearances are important, whether we like it or not... here are a few ideas of what you might want to wear on your date. 

Casual - The first few dates you will go on, will probably be casual, 'get to know you" sort of places. As you may or may not have guessed by now, I'm a fan of dresses. I think they are cute, flirty, and are appropriate for most every situation (plus that added air conditioning in the summer helps!) What's even better, dresses can be dressed up or down - so if you're going somewhere new and you're not sure how fancy you need to be, grab your "go to" dress. Add some fun accessories and heels or a statement necklace and some great flats. That way, regardless of the place you go, you'll be comfortable (and not too over or under dressed.) Other options, jeans and a fancy top - depending on your build, wear whatever is best suited for your body type. Obviously, you want to look your best, but also like you're not trying too hard. For guys, wear your favorite jeans and a cool concert t-shirt or a button down with the sleeves rolled-up. Flip flops or loafers, depending on what kind of guy you are. 

Dressy - Chances are, getting dressed up won't be your first date (unless you're in high school and you're going to homecoming together... but none of you are in high school... that I know of.) You're getting a little more into dates... and it's time to make sure the person you're dating isn't a total farm animal. You'll go to a nicer restaurant and maybe a special event - what then? Obviously, you're not going to wear what you once considered perfect during your single days. Granted, you're still single, just not exactly the same way as you were before. This is a great time to pull out some of your favorite dresses, heels, and accessories. For guys, don't be afraid to wear a well fitting suit! If that's too much for you... a button down and dress pants will always be fine. Also, consider investing in a nice pair of loafers or driving shoes. You'd be surprised how quickly they dress an outfit up. 

Night Out - The trickiest date of them all when you are starting to date someone. Here are some questions to help you figure out what to wear. What kind of night out will it be? Have you been to this place before? Have any of your friends ever been there? The best thing to do, if you've never been to this place before is ask your date (if they suggested it.) Is it a dive bar or more of a lounge? For ladies: this is a great time to pull out your hot skinny jeans and a funky top that may or may not have been purchased at Urban Outfitters (or some place equally as "trendy" and possibly a little younger than how you might need to dress). If you are a dress kind of girl, don't wear your littlest "single girl" dress, but wear the one you like the best and feel awesome. (Hey, if the date doesn't work out... you might meet someone else! But hopefully it works.) If you're a guy, go for jeans or my personal favorite denim cut non-jeans - a vital addition to any closet.

With these suggestions in mind, you're on the right track. The most important thing, be comfortable. If you're uncomfortable, your fidgeting and discomfort will only rub off on your date and make them perceive that you make them uncomfortable... not exactly the best feeling to give a date, huh? Relax, be comfortable, and most importantly, have fun!

Denim Cut - Non Jeans

Do you have a pair or two? No? We're in a fight until you do. 

I, like everyone else, love jeans. They are comfy, they look great, go well with everything... and are so ubiquitous. Have you ever noticed when packing for a trip you want to feel like you have too many outfits that revolve around your jeans? Here is a great time for denim cut - non jeans to take come to the rescue. They fit as well as jeans and go with just as much. 

It doesn't matter if they are brushed cotton, khaki, twill, whatever... they can be any fabric. And they can be found at almost any store at almost any price point. It's a great alternative to the everyday monotony of looking like everyone else.

Letter to the Editor: Floral Shoes

Dear NattilyNatalie,

I've just purchased a pair of floral heels that I love! However, I would love some dos and don'ts on how to wear them. Is it okay to wear one of the colors in the print as a solid dress to pair with, or is that too matchy-matchy? If wearing with jeans, how to drew attention to them and what kind of top/accessories will help them pop?

Sincerely, 

Your Loyal Reader

Hey LR!

I LOVE floral shoes. Really, I love any shoe with a print. I love the challenge and then once you figure out your challenge, they suddenly become a vital part of your wardrobe.

With floral printed shoes (and other colorful patterns) squint your eyes. What is the color that pops out? Whatever that may be, that is the color is goes with best. You can wear it with a dress of that color and then a cardigan or little blazer of a very opposite color that "goes with it" Aim for bright -it's Spring, after all! The pops of color would be a great way to make sure it's not too matchy-matchy.

Here's the thing with floral printed shoes, they are so uber-girly, that you immediately need to toughen them up, so that they don't look like frilly fuss shoes.

For work: A pencil skirt, bright cardigan (maybe kelly green) buttoned and belted, some classic silver jewelry and your hair in a knotted funky bun. 40's sex kitten secretary is a great way to have fun with these shoes. 

For play: Skinny jeans or black pants (to keep the focus), a bright top (maybe neon yellow?), and a long strand (at least 22") of pearls, and a leather jacket. Lady like dressy, with some edge. 

Other outfit options to consider: A leather shift dress (get the juxtaposition between the sexy and tough of the leather and the sweet of the shoes); a black or navy romper with a stack of enameled bangles (dressy, yet playful); or a solid A-line skirt and a chambray button down, knotted at the waist (modern, classic Americana). 

Hope this gives you a few ideas to start with. With fun shoes, especially prints, the options are endless!

xoxo
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Fun Date Ideas

Whether you just started dating or you've been married for years and years, date night is something I think is necessary to all relationships - and something I've seen my parents do almost weekly since I can remember. They're still together after 30+ years - so I'm fairly certain they are doing something right. It might not be ALL about date night, but I have a sneaking suspicion that it helps to take a little time to spend together - just the two of you. 

Dinner... movie... Blah Blah Blah. No thanks. Let's make it interesting. 

- Go to the local farmer's market together. You can buy each other thoughtful and yummy presents! You can pick up flowers, fresh veggies, and tons of other local goods. And don't even get me started on the people watching!
- Get active! Play mini golf, go bowling, go ice skating... something fun and exciting. It will get your blood pumping and whether you're terrible or the best ever, you'll be laughing the whole way. 
- Go to a local "point of interest". You may think these are just for tourists... but really, when was the last time you went to the local botanical garden? Never? It's a great place to explore and spend some time together. 
- Drive to the next town over and explore!
- Go to a grocery store that you don't normally visit, pick out food together and prepare a meal together at home.  
- Google: Local vineyards. Who doesn't love a wine tour? Bet you didn't know there are even a few near our tiny beach town. 
- A personal favorite of time... get friends together, everyone brings a dish and a bottle of wine. Eat, drink, and be merry. 
- A day at the beach or the park. Bring a blanket, lunch, some music, and a Frisbee. 
- Go to a theme park or the fair... Let your inner kid come out!
- Check out GroupOn or LivingSocial. They always have great activities you probably didn't know were even out there... and they are cheap! Kite Boarding? Beer School? It's all been available in the past week.
-  Take an art class together, painting, pottery, anything working with your hands. It will be fun and you'll have a little memento.

Don't be afraid to get creative. If you're an established couple, you might learn something new about your partner. If it's someone new, you'll learn very quickly what their comfort zone is and if it matches yours (or if it's something you want nothing to do with).

Quite Possibly The Most Annoying Word On The Planet

Déclassé

Ugh. It makes me dry heave just a little.

Déclassé means something that has a "fallen or reduced status". But when said with a pretentious accent (you know what I'm talking about!) it's about three million times worse. I may or may not have been watching an episode of Housewives from Godonlyknowswhere (how is this show STILL on TV? Props to Bravo for not giving up) and the women kept saying something was so "Déclassé". The issue was, only one of them actually said it with the correct accent... the rest of the women kept saying "it's SO de-clASSy". With the most bizarre nasally accent. Sorry ladies, but none of you are in the dirty Jerz, nor are you from there. You sound like trash.

Friends, let's put the proverbial kibosh on this word so it doesn't turn into a verbal epidemic amongst the Lady Cougars in our little town.

Fried Goat Cheese Salad

Last week at dinner and decided I wanted something light to eat. So I ordered a spinach salad... But it wasn't a regular salad. It was a magical salad. It was fresh spinach, a hibiscus infused agave vinaigrette, with mandarin oranges. Yum. But it gets better. On top was inch thick disk of fried goat cheese.

Holy Crap!

For those of you who have never indulged in fried goat cheese.. you are missing out. It's crunchy, savory, fully of flavor, and mixed with the hibiscus infused vinaigrette - how perfect. It was one of those meals that makes you stop and savor the moment. It was heaven.

Well... Excuse You!

Last night, I was out with my usual group of food loving, cheese adoring, trouble making lady friends. For the dinner portion of our evening, we went to a great local restaurant that turns into the local cougar bar on some nights. It's great for people watching, the food is moan worthy, and champagne is $2 (hey ladies' night!) After we finished our meal, we made the inevitable transition to the house music thumping dance floor. This is where the trouble began.

As we sipped out drinks and wiggled to the music, people kept bumping into us. It was not crowded. We had a decent amount of space and people would dance into us or (my favorite) walk in between us. Obviously we realized we were more in the way than not, but every time someone walked in between out conversation or bumped into someone, nary a "excuse me", nor "pardon me" was given.

When did common niceties go away? I'm not okay with this. Truthfully, of I was between someone at the grocery store, I say excuse me. Because it's rude to be in someone's way - when they are talking to someone, looking at or for something, or just generally being in their own personal space.

Next time, take a moment and think to yourself, if it would bother you - it probably bothers someone else. So say excuse me. It covers a whole manner of sins and suddenly your politeness simmers down someone who otherwise might have been ready to snap.

Age Approproate, Part 2: Baby Prostitutes

Okay, I'll admit it, I don't totally get kids these days. 

And yes, I realize that statement alone makes me "out of touch" and roughly about 8,000 years old. But fine, whatever. That's just how it's going to be.

Over the weekend, I was at an event with a few girlfriends and we couldn't help but stare at a poor, misguided child wearing a Barbie pink Herve Leger style bondage dress.  With patent leather white platforms. She was... maybe, MAYBE 14. Did I forget to mention the frosted light pink. I guess I did. From reading by now, I'm sure you know the bigger the "O", the bigger the hoe. It was painful. And I promise I wasn't being a giant bully, nor was I the only one who was shocked. It was the WHOLE crowd. 

Then... I saw her mother. And I understand why she was dressed the way she was. Her mother was severely inappropriate, especially for a daytime, kid friendly event.

As I've said before, the way you look is the first thing people see, something they remember, and the thing they immediately judge you on. Regardless of if their opinion is correct, it happens. As your child's parent/mentor/guardian/protector/common sense, make sure they are giving off the right appearance, as well. 

It makes me wonder, when did it become okay for children to dress overly sexy? I mean, I realize that it happens all the time - just go to any shopping mall in America, or heck, any high school, or middle school for that matter. There will be things that shock and appall all of us. 

Here's my take on the whole thing: My children will look like children. Not mini hookers. They will not wear overly suggestive clothing, too baggy pants, lewd t-shirts, or giant hooker heels. Even if it seems like too big of a fight. But I also don't want them to look like the Brady Bunch or in odd, formal clothing. There are few things that make me more uncomfortable than a little boy at a wedding in shorts, a peter pan collar, and leather buckled t-straps at a wedding. Too formal. Too old fashioned. No thanks. 

Maybe it's because I'm not yet a parent - maybe I have the idea wrong. Though I'm fairly certain this is a battle I won't bend on. Let's make a pact right here, friends. Let's let our kids be kids. Let's allow them to express themselves with tutus, Mohawks, colorful band-aids, and t-shirts that say things like "I do all my own stunts!" I would much rather have the tween child wearing a Justin Beiber t-shirt, than a skin tight leopard print party dress. Wouldn't you? Normal children (regardless of however lame their current teen idol may be) are way better than baby prostitutes.

Earrings... Let's Discuss

Here's the thing, everyone loves a little adornment. Earrings are a spectacular way to make everything you wear brighten up with a little flair. (No, I didn't mean to rhyme there... but when it's so fabulous it works, I embrace it.) There are a ton of different style of earrings, obviously - each with great times to wear them. Today, we'll review the basics.

Studs:

     These pups come in all shapes and sizes. They are identifiable by the post and backing. They are the most versatile and classic. Diamonds, pearls, platinum and gold balls. All classics... all great gifts any girl would love to have. They dress up any outfit with a touch of effortless class. When looking at your collection, I recommend having a basic pair of diamonds (square or round cut) anywhere from 1/4 caret to 2 carets. Any larger and they would be too heavy on your ear (and stretch out your lobe) and look fake! And if you have diamonds, that are real... you don't want people to think they're fake. As for pearls or metal balls, I generally stick to 7 to 8 mm for the size of my head. Obviously, you can rock smaller or larger... whatever you prefer. I have a pair of square platinum studs )they look like I tore them from a punky leather jacket) that I love to wear when I'm a little frilly and need some umph. 

Dangling/Chandelier:

     These are anything that hang from your ear in a dangling fashion... but come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. These are great to dress up any outfit or give an eclectic boho flair. With art deco always coming back in fashion, some of the best danglers are made. Great places to find there are when traveling abroad, at street fairs, and at Forever21 (because who doesn't love a pair of earrings for $3.80?) Mixed media is also something to keep in mind for something fun. Wood, metal, gems, anything lacquered... you get the picture. Dangling in fun colors are sure to add a bit of pop. 

Hoops:

     Tricky tricky tricky. Here's the thing: a nice white gold hoop can be so classy. But as they say, "The bigger the 'O', the bigger the hoe." (Or the bigger the hoop, the bigger the hoe... depending on where you get your colloquialisms... though as we know, I like myself a good rhyme.) If you are going to wear hoops, make sure they are of an appropriate size. Nothing hitting your shoulders or anything I could fit my child size wrist through, while you're not looking at me in a bar... which incidentally happens to be one of my favorite drinking games. Let's try to keep those hoops smaller than an inch in a half for the big ones. But small gold hoops at a party, add just the right amount of sass. It's something to consider. 

Okay, so there you go, earrings in a nutshell. Boys, not to hard or confusing, huh? Ladies, maybe you'll add something in you haven't tried in a while!

Nattily

Are you a Jeopardy! genius or an fervent researcher? Wait… you’re neither? So, the question is, do you know what Nattily means?

Natti·ly adv.

in a strikingly neat and trim manner

Neat, trim, and smart; dapper.
[Perhaps variant of obsolete netty, from net, elegant, from Middle English, from Old French; see neat1.]

So, now you know. It all kind of makes sense now, huh?

Letter to the Editor: Movie Premiere

Dear Nattily Natalie,

I'm going to a movie premiere in London! What should I wear?

Sincerely,

Your Devoted Reader, Dana 

Hey Dana!

What an exciting moment in your life! Especially when it is for an amazing cause! Movie premiers are so fun! You get a chance to dress up, see a great movie, and rub elbows with celebrities (and since you don't get to do that every day... who doesn't love a little sparkle in their lives?) 


Here's the plan for you, my lovely friend!! 

Dress: I suggest long. Truthfully. I know you dig the idea of a shorter dress, but if it's going to be cold. Thicker fabrics, maybe a silk crepe will wrinkle less and be more forgiving in any pictures. Here's my thought, if you want to go shorter cocktail length is fine - you want to look your best. But you also don't want to be that crazy girl who is trying to show up the celebrities on the red carpet (because that's what I would do). For you... I love the idea of a sweetheart neckline (classic glamor) straps are your choice. Nipped in a bit at the waist with a broad waist band to show off your curves. Colorwise, I would either stick with jewel tones (because they look incredible on you) or else a simple dark, bold color. Whatever you do... don't wear satin! It wrinkles and looks awful!! Another tip of advice: if you are taking a car to the premiere, take a towel from your hotel room and steam it while you finish getting ready. Take the towel and wrap it around your waist. The stream and dampness will actually cause your dress not wrinkle when you sit (or at least wrinkle less.)


Jewelry: Depending on the dress, my suggestion is go for a cocktail ring and great earrings. Bring the sparkle to your face and a little fun to your hand.


Make Up: For you, I'm seeing classic black, liquid eyeliner, perfect skin, and a bold lip. Maybe not red - but a deep berry! Something exciting and unexpected. Don't forget shimmer on your cheek bones, in the inside of your eyes, and right under your eye brows. Trust me - you'll like it.

Hair: What you want is an effortless half up, half down look with waves. Consider a 2 inch barrel to create waves (and don't forget your electrical converter!), pin your hair back with a few bobbies (but don't be afraid to let a few pieces fall out and not be perfect), and then spay the heck of our your hair!

In Your Bag: Consider a black clutch or a solid bag that "goes with" but doesn't match your dress. Make sure you have lipstick, mascara, pins, hair spray, and an elastic with you. Just in case you have any incidents. 


Good luck! Have fun! And don't forget your Spanx! I swear by them, anytime I get dressed up!!


xoxo,
Nattily Natalie

Change the World

They say the best etiquette is to make others feel comfortable. Selfless giving is something we can all do to help change the world.

Now, one of the best series I've read in years, the Hunger Games and the UN World Food Programme have joined forces. Check out this website and help change the world!!

Hunger Games & World Food Programme

Basically... be a badass like Katniss. 

Age Appropriate

Over the past few weeks, I've had multiple conversations with friends about women dressing their age. This seems to have become a bit of an issue for people. I for one, though in my late-ish 20s, have been known to wear cardigans and pearls, and I realize it can learn towards the dowdy side.

Alternatively, we live in a world where women of a certain age are rewarded for looking much younger than their actual age. Botox, augmentations, fillers, lypo. It can get extreme. If that's what you need to feel better about yourself, go for it. But really a healthy diet, some exercise, and really good moisturizer will make a HUGE difference.

As they say, 50 is the new 30. Wrong. 30 is still 30 and 50 is still 50. With that in mind, here are a few tips to think about, the next time you are shopping or getting dressed.

- If your clothes are in odd sizes (5,7,9) chances are the don't fit correctly. Why, you ask? Because clearly you purchased those in the junior's section. Juniors is for teenage girls - not adults. Sure the clothes may be cheaper, and we know how I love a good bargain. But really, the cut is completely wrong for any sort of curve and the quality is frightening. Seriously, you would have to purchase 3 pairs of pants in juniors to get the wear out of one pair of pants from an adult store. 

- Cover yourself. If you have lots of tattoos or lacy things, consider the environment you're in. I'm all for self expression - if you've got tattoos and love them, show them off. But obviously you're not going to show your whole sleeve while you're at work in your corporate office. Or say you've decided to wear your new lacy bra... I'm not entirely sure why you'd want to expose it - though I've seen it twice in the past month. Here's the best way to expose your lacy bra, and not look like trash. Wear a deep v sweater or cardigan and pants (please wear pants with this!) and let a tiny bit peak out. A little sexy, a little trashy. But if you're uncomfortable or if you're anything other than a 0, like the rest of us, you might want to consider buying a top with lace details and just giving a nod at the trend.

- If you're going to make a terrible fashion decision, like overalls (terribly unflattering to ALL body shapes), don't try to sexy it up.  Embrace your decision and wear some camo with it. Or better yet, burn, sell, or give away your overalls.

- A really good rule of thumb to work by, when getting dressed to go out, if you're going short on the bottom (and I implore you to consider what length of short is appropriate) cover up on top. If you are being a little revealing on top, cover more on the bottom, say... with pants. Novel, yes. It will also get you the type of attention you desire, rather than attention from bikers and creeper that wear Ed Hardy.

- What it comes to accessories, your mother was right, less is more. A few classy accessories will make any outfit, while piles of cheap mall accessories will make you look just that - cheap.

- If your dress is a tube dress, gold, skin tight, with cut outs - You look like a whore. I don't care if you are 15 or 50. This dress is entirely too over the top and has too many trashy elements going on. Even if it's a planned party where everyone is dressing like complete hookers - you don't HAVE to win this round, dignity will be better to have in the end.

The key to dressing your age is to embrace your body, no matter the size, accessorize with pieces you love, be proud to be you, and most importantly, when in doubt, cover up. Dressing age appropriately will make people take you more seriously and will ultimately help you out in life. Why not try it?

Advice of sorts...

My soon-to-be infamous romantic client said to me the other day...

"Anytime your partner asks for something and you say no, it doesn't make them stop wanting it. It just means they'll get it from somewhere else."

I've never looked at it that way. But there's a note of truth... and something to consider.

Roses < Every Other Flower

Did you know that not all girls like roses? Yes, there are tons that do, because roses are beautiful and come in the most stunning, saturated colors. Though, I'm willing to bet - if you ask someone what their favorite flower is, 9 times out of 10 they won't say roses. And if they do say roses, they'll have a specific color and type.

So, since it's the small things that matter, give someone flowers when you think of them. But understand that sometimes roses say "I don't care enough about you to learn what type of flower you like." Pay attention to the message you're sending - and take the time to ask what is someone's favorite! It will mean so much more to them.

Did you know...

Did you know Coco Chanel is the reason we have handbags that have straps that can go on your shoulders? She was sick of having her hands full and was inspired by soldiers' bags. Thus the shoulder strap was born. 

After the revival of her fashion house (headed by her, naturally) the quilted bag we all know and love (and drool over), the 2.55 was born. Why is it called the 2.55? Because it was created in February of 1955, of course.

What, you didn't know handbags have names? They do! As well as shoes. They are created with great respect and should be treated as such!

Hangover Cures

Whether it's from a long night with one too many drinks, cheap liquor, or just one glass of wine - hangovers happen.

Here are a few things to keep on hand to make your mornings easier (because if you're like me, you won't be indulging in hair of the dog.)

- Advil or aspirin. Pounding headaches are no ones friends.

- Lots of water. I'm sure you're dehydrated. So drink up!

- Protein. I've been told it helps give your body the nourishment it needs, after the abuse it just took. I'm not a big protein person (no red meat, no nuts, thanks!) so I can't attest to this. But if it works, it works!

- Comfort Carbs. A bagel, some French bread, maybe a croissant or two. Yum. Settle your stomach (and soak up alcohol) with delicious carbs.

- Garlic Based Supplements. Before or after... Don't ask me why, but they help.

- Caffeine. Gives your body a bit of a jolt and the energy to get up off the couch and get your day going.

Funny enough, when I googled hangover cures to see if there was a weird blend to try (2 eggs, hot sauce, a newts eye, and butterscotch syrup - I just made that up. Please don't try it!!!

My Earrings Are in the Fridge and Other Glorious Late Night Activites

Sometimes you go out, head home, and go to bed. Then, there is that night where you get a little wild. You have some cocktails, you're the life of the party, and the night ends with someone shoving you in a cab.

But what happens when you get home? Definitely not bed.

Magic. That's what happens, magic, my friends.

You eat everything you can get your hands on, you watch TV a little too loud, you dance like a buffoon, your clothes land in odd smoky piles around your house, and if you're like me, you take excessively long showers and then go to bed with super wet hair - then wake up in the morning with a soggy pillow and a very odd hairstyle.

That's all fine and dandy... Of you're 22. But you get to a certain age, and people, it's time to get it together.

No, I don't mean that you should stop going out and coming home to eat and dance. Never! But you can always hold it together to make the next morning slightly easier.

We're going to take a quick look at actions and remedies:

-You become a human vacuum, inhaling anything and everything that is in your fridge and cupboard. Have you noticed you eat things are already made? Leftovers, cold pizza, chips, cookies - there is not a lot of prep when it comes to late night eating. So, make yourself some healthier options and make them readily available. Cut up broccoli, have mixed nuts out (if you eat them), whole grain crackers, and fruit. You'll find, if it's there to eat, and you want something - you'll go for it. 

- You are suddenly deaf but ready to continue the party. Truth, I'm not sure there is a cure for this, but I have a few ideas, of course. Hide the remote, leave the speakers on a loudish setting (so they seem loud enough), or my personal favorite from a friend's place in college, a "shhhh!" sticker (made from a mail label) stuck to the remote. 

- The next morning, all of your stuff has mysteriously disappeared. Place a laundry basket in a conspicuous place before you leave to go out. That way, when you get home, you'll consider putting everything in it. Leave your purse in one area... it's normal spot (if you're the type to train yourself to do so). Try to have charges in a few rooms, so you consider sticking your phone on one of them, rather than in your shoe or under a table.

- Your smoky clothes are making everything upholstered stink! You know what I'm talking about, ugh! You sit on your couch and it smells like smoke for a week, no matter how much Febreze you use. This would be a good time to consider the conspicuous laundry basket as well, after a very sudsy shower. Wash that stuff off!!!

- You are really enjoying the warm weather and you singing sounds awesome! Post going out showers are a thing of beauty. Wash off the smoke, sweat, and stench of humanity. Okay. Maybe not that intense, but you know what I mean. Either way, a great thing to do if you are taking too long of showers is to set a timer. Keep an egg timer in your medicine cabinet and have it available for easy setting when you hop in to rinse off. The timer dings, you're done, everyone is happy. 

- Your pillow looks like a MAC employee. We don't always remember to wash our faces... though we should. Set your facewash and a towel out, before you go. That way, when you walk by it, you'll see it and wash your face!

- Your face looks like a prune when you wake, because you went to sleep with super wet hair. Let your hair sit for a few minutes in the towel... then use a different dry towel and put it over your pillow. Your towel will absorb a majority of the moisture and your face won't be cold and pruney. 

Next time you have a wild and crazy night, keep these ideas in mind for an easier morning... and don't forget to call me!

Did you know...

Did you know, in the Victorian Era and prior, men actually carries handbags? It wasn't until the 1900's, when women weren't forced to have an escort when out and about that they began to carry handbags. Men's purses were leather with few adornments and styles. Once women got ahold of them, they started to get interesting. Funny how that works... from utilitarian to fabulous. (Sorry boys, we ladies are evolutionarily predispositioned to detail.)

Did You Know...?

Did you know that women's shirts which have buttons, have the right side over the left, while men's are left over right. 

The reason being: When men began wearing button down shirts, butlers and maids would help you get dressed. With left over right, it is made for someone who is right handed to more easily manipulate the buttons. When button down shirt came into fashion for women, the were part of the work place, and long were the days of butlers and maids. Right over left makes it much easiter for someone to dress themselves.

So, next time you get on that guy about buttoning his shirt wrong - it's actually harder for him than you. A polite whisper "Hey, you might want to pop into the restroom to fix your shirt" should do the trick.

Valentine's Day: Single Edition

It seems only fair to dedicate a little attention to those who are single during Valentine's Day. What's great about this year, since Valentine's Day is on a Tuesday, you won't actually have to be inundated with date nights and those who are coupled, romping around.

Fun activities to consider:

- Friends dinner. As trite as it may be, get your loved ones together, coupled or not (everyone is invited!) and make dinner together. You never know if someone might want some company that night; if they are single, don't want to hang out with their roommate, or even their partner isn't able to celebrate with them - a group will be easy to come by.

- Go out. Local restaurants, pubs, and bars always have "singles" events around Valentine's Day. They are always fun and exciting.

- Go on a date with your best friend. Who better to spend the day with? Carrie and Miranda did it... even if theirs didn't end well. But you aren't keeping giant secrets from each other, so that's a moot point.

- Spend some time with you. Rent your favorite movie, treat yourself to your favorite take out, light some candles, and relax. Phone off and out of sight, with you computer tucked in an office or a different room. Spend the evening indulging and doing exactly what you want to do. 

- Say yes to that person who has asked you out, over and over again. You weren't really considering them... but maybe it's worth it. Really, what do you have to lose?

Also consider, dating websites (the good ones you have to pay for) generaly tend to give discounts around this time of year. You never know, it could be a great time to cherry pick your next partner. 

A New Door

I realize it's been nearly a week since I've written. I apologize. I've had a bit of an upheaval in my life - but from here on out, things are sure to get interesting. And I promise to write about anything that falls under my far reaching subjects.

Words I'll leave you with today, which were said to me last week: "there's a plan for you. Sometimes you've got to be pushed out a window to realize there is another door that is opening. The right door."

Valentine's Day Ideas

There is always so much pressure to get the right thing for Valentine's Day. But that pressure is coming from no one, but you - If it's coming from your partner, that's a whole different story/blog. Anyway, quit putting so much pressure on yourself! Unless your partner gives you a list (or you obsessively keep an ongoing list on your phone and update it every time your partner mentions "that would be cool to have", like me, because yes, I'm mildly insane) you probably could use some ideas. Here are a few fresh ideas on what to get that person in your life:

Beer Making Kit: From the Brooklyn Brew Shop. This contains everything you need to make your own home brews! brooklynbrewshop.com

Spike Your Juice: Have you read my blog entry? You should. This stuff is great! spikeyourjuice.com

The Hunger Games trilogy: This may not scream romance, but it will give you endless hours of conversation. amazon.com

Jonathan Adler Ceramics: charming and quirky ceramics and house decor for your stylish partner. jonathanadler.com

Other ideas - gift cards to a local spa, Living Social or Groupon deals to do as a couple, cupcakes or cake pops (Lollicakes! if you live in my town) at work or waiting at home.

My go-to gift websites: thinkgeek.com, uncommongoods.com, & etsy.com

The key - tailor gifts to your partner's tastes (obviously), but never underestimate the power of flowers at work and a homemade dinner. Valentine's Day doesn't have to be about grand gestures and romantic-comedy romance. It's about spending time with the person you love and letting them know how much you care.

Turn Juice to Alcohol

This is SO great! I found this kit while trolling the interwebz looking for Valentine's Day presents for my boyfriend. Maybe not his dream gift, but for $9.99, it's a great science experiment for me! 

Here's what happens: You buy some juice, any flavor you like. You empty this yeasty packet into the juice bottle and stop it up with the airtight stopper that comes with the package. You let the juice sit for 48 hours. While it sits, the yeasty mix converts the sugar in the juice to alcohol. The best part, since it's you making it, if you like it after the first 48 hours - go ahead and drink it. If you don't like the sweetness, just let it sit longer. The longer it sits, the more dry the juice becomes. You make it how you want it. How cool is that?  
Find it here: spikeyourjuice.com

Heel Caps

Do you have a favorite pair of heels that you wear all the time? But they are starting to wear down and are actually a little less comfortable that they used to be - and now you've noticed the nail head peeking out of the heel. At this point, you're almost afraid to wear them, because you love them so much, but they are starting to die a slow death.

This happens to me ALL the time. But! You can fix this! Well, not you, but your local cobbler. Your cobbler will take off the worn down heel cap and replace it with a rubber car. Here's what's so awesome about the rubber cap: it wears slower than plastic and being that it's rubber, it takes the brunt of the shock when you walk. So, it's actually more comfortable on you foot. Here's the very best part: rubber heel caps cost less that $10.00!!!

Save your shoes. You'll be so happy you did!

The Hunger Games

If you haven't read The Hunger Games trilogy, I implore you to do so. It's fascinating and well written. Let's face it. You've been hearing about it for months (I know I have been) - just give in and read it. You'll thank me when you do.

How To: Eat Popcorn

Obviously, you know how to eat popcorn. Take a kernel, pop it in your mouth, chew, swallow. As long as you don't choke, you've pretty much got it figured out. 

As far as I'm concerned (and thanks to a little help from a friend last night) there are four ways to eat popcorn.

1. Open your mouth and dump the bag/bowl in. Pieces will fly, but your desire for popcorn will be fulfilled. 

2. Fistfuls at a time. Reach your hand in the bag/bowl, grab as many kernels as you can and try to shove it all in your mouth. The problem with this method is the occurrence of crotch corn. 

Yes, crotch corn. Don't act like you don't know what I'm talking about! ... When you are a little too aggressive with eating and the popcorn explodes and lands between your legs. And then there's just this piece of oily popcorn seeping into your jeans or the fabric of the seat you're sitting in. And it's all you can think about. Your focus is no longer on the movie or conversation, just on that piece of popcorn in your crotch. Wait... just me? Alright then, back at it.

3. A few pieces at a time, maybe two to four pieces. Just enough for a mouth full, but not enough to have the kernels explode out of your hand.

4. Eat popcorn piece by piece by piece. Unfortunately, this doesn't satiate your need very well - especially not when it is freshly popped full of salt and butter.

If you are on a date, with company that isn't your every day group, or with people you might want to use better manners with, options 3 and 4 are your best bet. Truth be told, my favorite method is 3. More than one at a time, but not enough to explode and create crotch corn. With that... go forth and pop!

Blinkers

Tonight, our topic of discussion has to do with blinkers. You know, that little stick on the left of your steering wheel that gives you the ability to flash this little light, which in turn, signals to let other drivers know where you are driving your car? That's called a blinker in case you weren't sure. 

As my lovely readers, I'm sure you all signal regularly to make sure those around you don't pummel their car into yours, as well as to keep your passengers safe. But for those who have come to my little town from up north, a lesson in blinkers is due! 

- When you change lanes, signal.

- When you are easing into a turn lane, signal.

- When you are turning onto a different street, signal.

- When you turn onto your street, sans turn lane, signal. 

If you ever move your vehicle from the lane it is in, regardless of what you do - use your blinker. It will keep you, those in your car, and those around you safe.

Asparagus

Asparagus. Yum. Whether baked, steamed, or grilled, it's so delicious. And if It wasn't 9am and I wasn't gulping down mocha, I would consider having some. Asparagus is so easy to work with - any sauce goes well with it. It's so versatile!

Normally at this part of the blog, I would begin to discuss recipes and meal combinations. But not today. As some of you may know, I'm a 3am thinker. If I have any anxiety, my body wakes up at 3am and I am flooded with thoughts of everything that I perceive wrong (I need to clean! Did I pay the cable bill? What am I going to wear to that wedding in three months?) Sometimes there are actual issues, but most of the time it's just a little dose of 3am crazy. Magnesium, I've found helps with these delightful episodes. Though last night, I woke up for just a second. And asparagus was on the tip of my lips. Yep, asparagus. Here's the thing, not on how to cook it... on how to eat it!

We all eat asparagus by cutting it into one inch to one-and-a-half inch pieces, then pick up a few pieces successfully (or unsuccessfully) with your fork. But it's frustrating, you can't always get the pieces you want and the cutting. Oh the cutting, that turns into squeaks that a reminiscent of fingernails on a chalkboard. Bah! I can't even. 

Here's the thing: of the etiquette books I've read (dozens), those that address this issue all say the same thing. Use your fingers. Seriously. Use your fingers. Emily Post even says so. But I personally can't get over the idea of being at a nice restaurant or at a dinner party and picking up asparagus to eat it with my fingers (though as much as I love asparagus, that would be a really quick way to shovel them in my mouth and get instant gratification). All I can see are my fingers covered in oil, butter, or cheese and a huge mess ensuing from there. No thanks. 

Here are my thoughts: fork or fingers... either flies with me. But be on the look out friends, I might be using my fingers. How do you think it's appropriate to eat asparagus?